Women Paying Alimony – “Manimony”
Women paying alimony (permanent alimony) has become common place these days. Even though there are some men who would rather die than take a penny of that money, there are many others who will gladly take the alimony payments.
Women Paying Alimony
The question is, why is it okay for a man to pay spousal support after a divorce but so hard to accept when the tables are turned? Women are mad as hell because they have to pay spousal support after divorce and many say they are not being fair.
“If it’s fair for a husband who earns more to pay his wife, then it is fair for a wife who earns more to pay her husband. Gender should not be an issue,” said Brette McWhorter Sember, 39, in an e-mail interview. The former lawyer, based in Clarence, N.Y., is the author of several books including “How to Parent with Your Ex (Sourcebooks).” (Skowal)
40 percent of households in the USA are headed by female breadwinners. However of the 400,000 persons who are receiving some sort of alimony, only 3 percent were men according to the 2010 census. So what is the reason for this, why are there so few men who are willing to accept support from their partners?
“The reason? Die-hard gender roles, a bitter fight from bread-winning wives and macho pride, say family attorneys. And in some parts of the country, judges are flat-out sexist.
“Gender equality is a relatively new concept in the span of history, and old stereotypes die hard,” says San Francisco Bay area divorce attorney Mark Ressa. “A successful man is considered a bread-winning man, and asking for alimony is considered emasculating.” (Johnson, 2014)
Women Paying Alimony – Fair or Not?
There are some cases where palimony is only fair, while there are others where it is clearly a gold digging experiment. If a man and his wife come to the decision that it is best for the man to quit his job and stay home with the kids, then in my mind, he is a candidate for palimony. Very rarely does a woman pay spousal support without a fight, yet many men can barely survive after a divorce because of alimony and child support payments. Is it only fair when the man is shelling out the dollars after a divorce or are we being a tad hypocritical?
“Aggressive pursuit of spousal support by men is becoming more common, some divorce lawyers say, as the stigma of asking for alimony fades.” (Gomstyn, 2009)
Should this scare women who are planing to get married? A lot of the cases I have seen, the women did not start out working more money than their spouses. Somewhere along they way, this happened so many did not think of protecting themselves. How did we get to this stage where humans have gotten so cold. What about being fair with each other? In many instances a lot of this has to do with vindictiveness. Nobody wants to think about the other.
How do you feel about a woman having to pay spousal support to an ex-husband?
How do you feel about a man getting spousal support from his ex-wife?
What role if any should gender pay when it comes to spousal support?
Gomstyn, A. (2009). Role – reversal: Ex-wives angry over paying alimony. Retrieved from http://abcn.ws/1RyKwdB
Johnson, E. (2014). Why do so few men get alimony? Retrieved from http://onforb.es/1T6QiIS
Skowal. L. Women who pay alimony: It’s more frequent than you think. Retrieved from http://bit.ly/1PsgmaH